Sometimes the devil tries to convince me that I am surrounded by perfection. People living perfect lives, with the perfect hair, perfect boyfriends (or fiances or husbands), perfect bodies, and perfect careers. Perfect beings that I could never in a million years live up to. How does she have the perfect hobbies, career, and children? How does he have the perfect car and relationship? Y’all I fall into the comparison trap daily and I know that I’m not alone.
Isn’t it crazy how we can spend so much time comparing ourselves to others that we begin to actually look down on other human beings? Sometimes I actually think less of another person whom Christ created because of my own insecurities.The reality is that I am so insecure in my own skin that I long to dump those insecurities on another person – just so that I can have someone else to blame for my own feelings of inadequacy. Wow that’s twisted. Oh Sweet Savior, please make this stop! I need God’s mighty help in this area.
The more I see the bad in myself, the more I pick apart the bad in others. How twisted is this way of thinking? What if I reversed it? What if maybe, just maybe, I started to see the good in myself and therefore began to see the beauty in others?
I’ve been camping out in 1 Samuel for a few weeks and am blown away by David’s security in himself and in His relationship with God despite Saul’s consistent insecurities. Saul is plotting to kill David and is so jealous and angry at him constantly and David is just like: Why exactly are you mad? I didn’t do that. That’s not who I am. I’m going to do what is right no matter what the cost is. I have tons of respect for you and won’t cause any harm to you at all because that is not what the Spirit of the Living God within me is calling me to do. That’s my own paraphrasing, but it is blowing my mind that despite the fact that Saul tries constantly to KILL David (repeatedly), David still stands in the complete, powerful, and peaceful security of the Lord (check out the story for yourself).
Before Samuel anoints David to be the next king over Israel, Samuel seeks God’s counsel. Even though David may have not physically looked the part, God saw His heart and had huge plans for him: “The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7b
Wait what? The Lord doesn’t care about my looks, likes, or lashes? That’s right. The Lord looks at the heart. I like to think that when the Lord looks down at me, all He sees is my soul. He doesn’t see anything that I try to cover myself up with. He sees me as the beautiful creation that I am and as the incredible potential I have because of my relationship with Him.
Sometimes I think we spend way too much time trying to improve our appearances instead of our spirits.
Think of it this way. If you spent as much time with God as you did on your own physical appearance, social media presence, and outward impressions, how different would your life be? If you spent less time worrying about your looks (in the media world or in the physical realm) and more time nurturing the Holy Spirit living inside of you, would your life change dramatically? If your answer is yes, then you may want to look into where your deepest desires lie. Want to know what matters most to you? Look at how you spend your time and money. I know these thoughts sure do convict my spirit.
I’m tired of putting myself down and I’m tired of putting others down because of my own insecurities. This world cannot put a label on you, sweet friend. When we surrender our lives to Jesus, the world (and our own selves) have no right to define us any longer. Our Creator in heaven gives us this new identity:
Forgiven (Romans 4:23-24)
Treasured (Deuteronomy 7:6)
Known (Psalm 139)
Brand New (Ephesians 4:20-23)
Secure (Psalm 16:8)
Loved (Romans 8:38)
His Child (Galations 3:26-27)
Never Alone (Matthew 28:20)
Beautiful (Psalm 139:14)
…and the list goes on and on and on. You are beautiful and unique. God did not design you to be compared to anyone else. He designed you to be you. As I grow closer to Him, I not only find out more about who He is, but I also discover more about who He created me to be. Rejoice in who you are! Rejoice in who others are! He has created us all in His image and it is so beautiful to see how He uses each of our unique talents to fulfill His plans. Y’all, let’s build each other up, encourage each other through successes, and help carry each others burdens in the name of Jesus.
Remember that your worth and security come from HEAVEN. Everything on the outside will soon fade away, but your soul will last for all of eternity. The only perfection I have ever come to know is Jesus Christ, and He invites us into an eternal relationship with Him. If a perfect God can accept me, then surely I can accept myself.
Only the Creator has a right to define the creation. Know your worth, fam. God chose you, calls you beautiful, and longs for an authentic relationship with you.
Be you. Always be you.